Who's The Softie and Who's The Disciplinarian

So normally people would look and Justin and I and think,

Rachael is totally the disciplinarian,

and Justin is totally the softie....

Not so much people.

I'm the biggest push over when it comes to our son.

When he cries,

I automatically go to see what's wrong.

When he's fussy,

I automatically want to hold him and comfort him.

In the middle of the night if he wakes up upset,

I put him in our room with us.

This has created nothing short of a little monster though.

Now our little one expects these instant gratification kinds of things.

Now Justin is way better at this than me.

He totally embraces the whole "let them self soothe" idea.

He philosophy is,

"He will learn that nothing is wrong with him,

he's changed,

he's fed,

he doesn't have gas.

He needs to know that you aren't going to go running every time he makes a peep"

Easier said than done.

Even a whimper breaks my heart.

And nothing is better than when my little man is holding me as much as I'm holding him.

But I'll admit it.

I need to be more like Justin.

I'm sure there is some sort of balance I can eventually achieve.

It's just so hard.

What about you all?

How did you guys figure this out?